Hi there - a lot of other great responses but I just wanted to say that my son also wears HAs and has since 5 weeks old; I wear them too but I didn't know I was deaf until I was an adult. He's 14 months now and while the first few weeks and months were a challenge in terms of learning to manage HAs on a baby, he's doing so well now, developing in line with his hearing peers and taking the HAs completely in his stride. Feel free to DM if you'd like to share experiences or rant!
Thank you! This part of the journey has been especially lonely as we know no body else with kids with HAs. Both my husband and I are hearing as is our 2.5 yr old. I would love any tips you have or things you wish you knew when your son started wearing them!
First things first; baby girl will do just fine. What's her hearing level? We're both at moderate here (though I'm borderline moderate-severe). I can tell you, as a hearing aid wearing adult, that they take up about as much brain space as contact lenses do. I put them in in the morning, take them out at night, and otherwise I don't even think about them. Most people don't even know I'm deaf as I wear my hair long and I have dome HAs so the wire is nearly invisible. I actually consider them a life enhancer as they are Bluetooth enabled and connect to my phone so I'm effectively never without headphones.
If breastfeeding is important to you, and you have long term supply concerns, have you considered using peer-to-peer donor breastmilk? It may not be something you're interested in, but I have donated my surplus to someone in a similar position. Otherwise, feeding on demand (and pumping in between) is the best thing you can do to increase your supply.
Hiya! I’m interested! I’m landing in London tommorow and I’m broke because I missed my flux bus in Holland due to my wallet getting pick pocketed in Amsterdam 😭 can we get in touch please?
Sure - do you have a disabled persons Railcard? Otherwise you might get slapped with a big fine... they always check my Railcard so I wouldn't chance it. If so, DM me your email and I'll forward you the e-ticket.
The “breastfeeding made my baby 99th percentile in weight” accounts. Some babies are big and some babies are small, that’s literally how percentiles work. It simultaneously shames moms like me who EBF and just have a naturally thinner but otherwise healthy baby consuming an appropriate amount of calories, moms who can’t produce enough breast milk whose babies are legitimately struggling to grow and have to triple feed or combo feed, and moms who choose to formula feed because they can’t or don’t want to breastfeed at all. Not to mention, plenty of EFF babies are also on the very large side. Obnoxious all around.
It's such a funny misunderstanding of statistics as well. The goal is not to get your baby to the top of the percentiles, it's to keep them on track wherever is right for them!
Oh, I hate this. My baby and I both have moderate hearing loss and wear hearing aids; a few quick searches looking for cute babies wearing HAs and my feed is FULL of what I can only describe as 'child disability tragedy accounts'. I know people want to share their stories, but there's something exploitative at the heart of these and I can't handle it. Lots of blocking.
I think the winky face indicates that you are joking, but for the avoidance of doubt and given the theme of this thread; it's not 'weird' to feed your child in public, nor is there a magical age decided by other people at which it becomes weird. When to stop breastfeeding is a completely personal choice between parent and child.
It’s lovely that you do this for people who can’t. I found it hard enough breastfeeding one baby and pumping occasionally, can’t imagine pumping enough to donate too!
Thanks, that isn't what I meant though! I just wanted to post about it existing without giving unsolicited breastfeeding-adjacent advice on those threads. They certainly don't mention it on antenatal courses! I think it's an important community thing and I'm so glad it still exists in the modern day, I feel like it connects us to a very old practice.
I'm just looking here today as my baby is 10 months now but the little preemie in our bump group was the first to walk! She is doing amazing and her mum keeps apologising for bragging about it but we are all so happy for them.
The manual gives instructions for facing out, at 4-12 months depending on on baby’s head control. My son is 5 months. I usually only wear him in this at home for 10-15 minutes at a time.
Have you considered a hipseat? At this age my baby was the same and it was so useful to perch him on facing out - it saved my back! Easier to get into and out of than a wrap anyway, and it's good right to toddler years.
Absolutely she got 9-10 hours of uninterrupted sleep 🙏 then she got dressed in a cute but comfy outfit where she didn't have a fupa. She got out the door in under 30 minutes this morning to go have her favorite breakfast and coffee with her husband and walked their favorite trail in town without having to think about how it would interrupt someone's sleep schedule. She plays some video games for a few hours over lunch, then goes to dinner at a wine bar followed by a 2.5 hour movie. Ends the night with spontaneous, hot sex where nothing hurts and there's no chance of being interrupted by crying.
Ah so this is exactly how I feel and what led me to having a baby in the end! 'it's the same thing she's been doing for years'. I was happy, but I was ready for the next adventure.
Looks like you have some great advice here. A different angle; I would delete this post as soon as you get the advice you need. You have a lot of personal information on your profile and depending on the details of the situation someone might be out to doxx you.
Nobody has mentioned a hipseat yet! While it's not for out and about, having one to support carrying baby around in the house and at museums/public spaces was a HUGE help for me starting at about this age.
I had no earthly idea that you bleed for 6 (+/-) weeks after birth. Absolutely none. No one told me until I had the baby. I felt so stupid not knowing that.
Same. They talked about postpartum bleeding on my antenatal course but I thought they meant like bleeding from trauma, like a tear or whatever. Nobody specifically mentioned lochia, or that it would be like a big period!
There’s an interesting study that the show Babies on Netflix talked about, basically how mothers’ brain structure changes after having a baby, something about the amygdala and being more responsive/hearing every little sound etc. That is why mothers in general wake up easily or don’t even achieve deep sleep while their babies are small, evolution’s way of protecting our LOs! Well, apparently it also happens with men if there is no “mother” they can (sub)consciously rely on - they studied male gay parents and their amygdala also changes when they’re the primary caretaker. So, if those conclusions are true, it wouldn’t hurt to be as present and hands-on with the baby during the day, and to really see and feel that the baby is still your responsibility during the night!
Ah, we had this problem, I'm sorry. It does tie you to baby a lot. We fixed it by 1. Giving it a couple weeks break to diminish any negative associations and take our stress levels down when offering it (baby can pick up how you're feeling!) 2. Offering the bottle right on wakeup from a nap, he seemed to take it better when he was eating more on instinct 3. Lansinoh teats
Thank you so much! Did you find your baby was much more receptive after the break? I was worried a break would cause her to forget any progress already made!
Before Lansinoh we just used Tommee Tippee. I think in some places you can get like variety packs of bottles with a bunch of different brands so you don't have to buy a bunch of different ones, but I couldn't find that in the UK. Lansinoh at often recommended on here as the most breast-like.
Hi. I've had a stalker; it's a really uncomfortable experience. I would highly recommend speaking to the Suzy Lamplugh Trust helpline, who will give you a full run-down of your legal and personal options on how to protect yourself. I was on the phone to them for about an hour the only time I spoke to them and the lady was absolutely brilliant.
Can I suggest you speak to them before you speak to the police? This is a legal forum, so others are giving you the correct legal answer, but the police can be a blunt instrument in stalking cases and may exacerbate matters or not give you the support you are looking for. The Suzy Lamplugh helpline can advise you on exactly that, as they are very experienced in stalking and harassment cases.
I think there’s a lot of fakes - the Elvie is a huge problem on vinted. There’s loads for like £40 then once I saw a post someone had uploaded like a listing but it was a warning that she been scammed with an Elvie sale. Maybe the same for other brands too :( just buy from a sellar with a good amount of feedback to be sure
Good point, and definitely looking for good reviews - the ones I bought at £15 were both fine (one for home and one for work) but they were clearly photographed as used, I'd agree I'd be suspicious of a BNIB or similar. I guess the lansinoh doesn't really have the, idk, hype of the Elvie?
Honestly - I'd get a hipseat (eg Tushbaby) to wear around the house. Minimising the amount of strain on your back just toting baby around while you chat, entertain them, etc, has really helped my back pain.
I gave birth at Lewisham recently. I'd say care really good, communication a bit patchy, obviously I don't have anything to compare it to but I thought it was totally fine and I had quite a complex birth. Feel free to ask any questions!
So funny how there are different opinions here - my 5mo is really big (95th or higher) and I LOVE it, I'm so proud! The idea that a lovely big fat baby is a bad thing just goes to show how deeply fatphobia is rooted in our society, imo, that it even extends to babies. I'm proud of how well I've been able to feed him, and he's going to grow up big and strong - I'm not fat shaming him!!!
Get a hipseat. I have one (Hippychick brand, second hand) and just holding my baby facing outwards with his bum on that instead of in the same position but with my arms made a WORLD of difference in terms of aches and tiredness. I can tote him around for so much longer now, and he's a biiiiig baby. Solidarity, ours was the same!
Hi there - a lot of other great responses but I just wanted to say that my son also wears HAs and has since 5 weeks old; I wear them too but I didn't know I was deaf until I was an adult. He's 14 months now and while the first few weeks and months were a challenge in terms of learning to manage HAs on a baby, he's doing so well now, developing in line with his hearing peers and taking the HAs completely in his stride. Feel free to DM if you'd like to share experiences or rant!
Thank you! This part of the journey has been especially lonely as we know no body else with kids with HAs. Both my husband and I are hearing as is our 2.5 yr old. I would love any tips you have or things you wish you knew when your son started wearing them!
First things first; baby girl will do just fine. What's her hearing level? We're both at moderate here (though I'm borderline moderate-severe). I can tell you, as a hearing aid wearing adult, that they take up about as much brain space as contact lenses do. I put them in in the morning, take them out at night, and otherwise I don't even think about them. Most people don't even know I'm deaf as I wear my hair long and I have dome HAs so the wire is nearly invisible. I actually consider them a life enhancer as they are Bluetooth enabled and connect to my phone so I'm effectively never without headphones.
If breastfeeding is important to you, and you have long term supply concerns, have you considered using peer-to-peer donor breastmilk? It may not be something you're interested in, but I have donated my surplus to someone in a similar position. Otherwise, feeding on demand (and pumping in between) is the best thing you can do to increase your supply.
Hiya! I’m interested! I’m landing in London tommorow and I’m broke because I missed my flux bus in Holland due to my wallet getting pick pocketed in Amsterdam 😭 can we get in touch please?
Sure - do you have a disabled persons Railcard? Otherwise you might get slapped with a big fine... they always check my Railcard so I wouldn't chance it. If so, DM me your email and I'll forward you the e-ticket.
The “breastfeeding made my baby 99th percentile in weight” accounts. Some babies are big and some babies are small, that’s literally how percentiles work. It simultaneously shames moms like me who EBF and just have a naturally thinner but otherwise healthy baby consuming an appropriate amount of calories, moms who can’t produce enough breast milk whose babies are legitimately struggling to grow and have to triple feed or combo feed, and moms who choose to formula feed because they can’t or don’t want to breastfeed at all. Not to mention, plenty of EFF babies are also on the very large side. Obnoxious all around.
It's such a funny misunderstanding of statistics as well. The goal is not to get your baby to the top of the percentiles, it's to keep them on track wherever is right for them!
Oh, I hate this. My baby and I both have moderate hearing loss and wear hearing aids; a few quick searches looking for cute babies wearing HAs and my feed is FULL of what I can only describe as 'child disability tragedy accounts'. I know people want to share their stories, but there's something exploitative at the heart of these and I can't handle it. Lots of blocking.
It's actually good for your child's immune system. After a year breastmilk is mostly giving your child antibodies that you have in your body.
I think the winky face indicates that you are joking, but for the avoidance of doubt and given the theme of this thread; it's not 'weird' to feed your child in public, nor is there a magical age decided by other people at which it becomes weird. When to stop breastfeeding is a completely personal choice between parent and child.
It’s lovely that you do this for people who can’t. I found it hard enough breastfeeding one baby and pumping occasionally, can’t imagine pumping enough to donate too!
Thanks, that isn't what I meant though! I just wanted to post about it existing without giving unsolicited breastfeeding-adjacent advice on those threads. They certainly don't mention it on antenatal courses! I think it's an important community thing and I'm so glad it still exists in the modern day, I feel like it connects us to a very old practice.
I'm just looking here today as my baby is 10 months now but the little preemie in our bump group was the first to walk! She is doing amazing and her mum keeps apologising for bragging about it but we are all so happy for them.
The manual gives instructions for facing out, at 4-12 months depending on on baby’s head control. My son is 5 months. I usually only wear him in this at home for 10-15 minutes at a time.
Have you considered a hipseat? At this age my baby was the same and it was so useful to perch him on facing out - it saved my back! Easier to get into and out of than a wrap anyway, and it's good right to toddler years.
Absolutely she got 9-10 hours of uninterrupted sleep 🙏 then she got dressed in a cute but comfy outfit where she didn't have a fupa. She got out the door in under 30 minutes this morning to go have her favorite breakfast and coffee with her husband and walked their favorite trail in town without having to think about how it would interrupt someone's sleep schedule. She plays some video games for a few hours over lunch, then goes to dinner at a wine bar followed by a 2.5 hour movie. Ends the night with spontaneous, hot sex where nothing hurts and there's no chance of being interrupted by crying.
Ah so this is exactly how I feel and what led me to having a baby in the end! 'it's the same thing she's been doing for years'. I was happy, but I was ready for the next adventure.
Looks like you have some great advice here. A different angle; I would delete this post as soon as you get the advice you need. You have a lot of personal information on your profile and depending on the details of the situation someone might be out to doxx you.
The blues are dominantly on the right side of their blocks, and the blue is the first thing I see. Maybe try rotating a couple?
Depending on where you are, I'd say Patterdale terrier.
Nobody has mentioned a hipseat yet! While it's not for out and about, having one to support carrying baby around in the house and at museums/public spaces was a HUGE help for me starting at about this age.
I had no earthly idea that you bleed for 6 (+/-) weeks after birth. Absolutely none. No one told me until I had the baby. I felt so stupid not knowing that.
Same. They talked about postpartum bleeding on my antenatal course but I thought they meant like bleeding from trauma, like a tear or whatever. Nobody specifically mentioned lochia, or that it would be like a big period!
There’s an interesting study that the show Babies on Netflix talked about, basically how mothers’ brain structure changes after having a baby, something about the amygdala and being more responsive/hearing every little sound etc. That is why mothers in general wake up easily or don’t even achieve deep sleep while their babies are small, evolution’s way of protecting our LOs! Well, apparently it also happens with men if there is no “mother” they can (sub)consciously rely on - they studied male gay parents and their amygdala also changes when they’re the primary caretaker. So, if those conclusions are true, it wouldn’t hurt to be as present and hands-on with the baby during the day, and to really see and feel that the baby is still your responsibility during the night!
Yeah, I've got severe hearing loss and I still wake up every time my baby cries. Normally I can sleep through anything!
Ah, we had this problem, I'm sorry. It does tie you to baby a lot. We fixed it by 1. Giving it a couple weeks break to diminish any negative associations and take our stress levels down when offering it (baby can pick up how you're feeling!) 2. Offering the bottle right on wakeup from a nap, he seemed to take it better when he was eating more on instinct 3. Lansinoh teats
Thank you so much! Did you find your baby was much more receptive after the break? I was worried a break would cause her to forget any progress already made!
Before Lansinoh we just used Tommee Tippee. I think in some places you can get like variety packs of bottles with a bunch of different brands so you don't have to buy a bunch of different ones, but I couldn't find that in the UK. Lansinoh at often recommended on here as the most breast-like.
Grown-ups shouldn't ask you to keep secrets, especially from mum and dad.
Hi. I've had a stalker; it's a really uncomfortable experience. I would highly recommend speaking to the Suzy Lamplugh Trust helpline, who will give you a full run-down of your legal and personal options on how to protect yourself. I was on the phone to them for about an hour the only time I spoke to them and the lady was absolutely brilliant.
Great advice, thanks!
Can I suggest you speak to them before you speak to the police? This is a legal forum, so others are giving you the correct legal answer, but the police can be a blunt instrument in stalking cases and may exacerbate matters or not give you the support you are looking for. The Suzy Lamplugh helpline can advise you on exactly that, as they are very experienced in stalking and harassment cases.
I've found my Lansinoh one reliable, and second hand ones go for £15-20 on Vinted. Just sterilise the parts and you're good!
I think there’s a lot of fakes - the Elvie is a huge problem on vinted. There’s loads for like £40 then once I saw a post someone had uploaded like a listing but it was a warning that she been scammed with an Elvie sale. Maybe the same for other brands too :( just buy from a sellar with a good amount of feedback to be sure
Good point, and definitely looking for good reviews - the ones I bought at £15 were both fine (one for home and one for work) but they were clearly photographed as used, I'd agree I'd be suspicious of a BNIB or similar. I guess the lansinoh doesn't really have the, idk, hype of the Elvie?
Honestly - I'd get a hipseat (eg Tushbaby) to wear around the house. Minimising the amount of strain on your back just toting baby around while you chat, entertain them, etc, has really helped my back pain.
I mean, an inclusive and appropriate way to phrase it would just be 'those who need one'?
I gave birth at Lewisham recently. I'd say care really good, communication a bit patchy, obviously I don't have anything to compare it to but I thought it was totally fine and I had quite a complex birth. Feel free to ask any questions!
So funny how there are different opinions here - my 5mo is really big (95th or higher) and I LOVE it, I'm so proud! The idea that a lovely big fat baby is a bad thing just goes to show how deeply fatphobia is rooted in our society, imo, that it even extends to babies. I'm proud of how well I've been able to feed him, and he's going to grow up big and strong - I'm not fat shaming him!!!
Get a hipseat. I have one (Hippychick brand, second hand) and just holding my baby facing outwards with his bum on that instead of in the same position but with my arms made a WORLD of difference in terms of aches and tiredness. I can tote him around for so much longer now, and he's a biiiiig baby. Solidarity, ours was the same!